For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future – Jeremiah 29:11
On August 9th, I became aware of a decision my youngest son had made regarding some thing that I didn’t approve of and as a parent, it really disappointed me. Honestly, I wasn’t just disappointed, I was hurt and as the days progressed I became angry. So, angry that my attitude was ALL mine and none of God’s. I was so caught up in all the WHYS with God that I never asked WHY NOT. So often as parents we question everything that we did or didn’t do concerning raising our children and we miss the lessons that God is trying to teach us. The lesson that those moments are opportunities to help our children, others and us grow closer to who God is.
In my heart, I knew God wanted me to show love despite the decision. I could hear so many things that confirmed that I had to BE LOVE, especially at this moment. I had to BE IN HIS IMAGE no matter what I was facing but it was HARD and I was failing. Then a classmate posted these words and my heart overflowed – “I love my children, no matter what. I may not always love their decisions; however, I love them.” Those words embodied EVERYTHING that I was feeling but just couldn’t get the words to form right. And the moment I read them, my perspective shifted. I remembered the times I had disappointed my Mom and instead of hearing disappointed words, God allowed her to show me GRACE and MERCY. So, who was I not to show it to my son or anyone else for that matter.
The faithful love of the LORD never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning – Lamentations 3:22-23
Our children grow up because that is the way God has orchestrated this MAGNIFICENT thing called LIFE!! They should make their own decisions about their life, even if they are not the best ones – WE DID!! I know we want them to understand that experience is not always the best teacher, especially if someone else has already experienced it and can help you BYPASS that step. But there are some things in life, that I do believe they should learn for themselves. So, while they are learning, we as parents must be praying and consistently pleading the blood of Jesus over their lives. We must also keep God’s GRACE and MERCY close to our HEARTS so when it’s time to hand it out to others, it’s close to our MOUTHS and therefore we speak KINDNESS, JOY, and LOVE into others especially when it’s the hardest.
As parents, we also must be brave enough to tell our children that we still LOVE them even when we don’t agree with their decisions. Because honestly, that’s when they need to HEAR it the most.
Our Father loves us day in and day out. He already knows that we’re going to make some decisions that just don’t line up with what He has planned for our lives. But He trusts that we will return to the path in due season and follow His plans for our lives.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it – Proverbs 22:6